This Season of Life

This season of life I’m in is challenging.

I often feel like I’m always behind and never do anything worthwhile. Then I remember, the most worthwhile thing I do is take care of my son. Changing diapers, rocking, wiping noses, nursing, cuddling, reading, feeding, singing, every one of those things are worthwhile.

However, I’ve had a hard time lately realizing that something has to give. Right now, it is almost impossible to nurse my son, play with him, hold him, wash diapers, stay on top of our laundry, prepare meals, bake the occasional batch of bread, wash dishes, transcribe from home, blog fairly regularly and keep our home tidy and clean.

So what gives?

Honestly, it’s been probably 2 weeks since I’ve vacuumed or cleaned. As far as dusting goes, it’s been a month; I haven’t dusted since we moved in! I’ve managed to keep things around here tidy but they are far from perfect.

We have papers strewn here and there – we have yet to bring our filing cabinet in from the garage and file things. Plus, moving and switching insurance plans equals a lot of papers being mailed to us.

Our financial bookkeeping is in disarray. Thinking about getting it in order makes my stomach hurt. We have things to sign, water bills to pay, papers to mail and they just sit.

The ironing pile is just growing. I even shared earlier this week about expressing love to my husband by ironing for him – he had to iron his pants one day this week. And notice some of the shirts are just thrown on the pile too- that’s a result of folding laundry with a fussy baby.

Now Paxton is adding to the mess. I had no clue a 6-month-old could create such a big mess. I left him playing in his nursery for 15 minutes while I transcribed today and I came back to find toys and books pulled off the bookshelf and his playmat moved about 2 feet.

Even though the house may be chaotic, I’m not going to bed at night and regretting not spending quality time with my son.

This season of life is challenging – it may not be neat and organized but it sure is worthwhile!

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19 Replies to “This Season of Life”

  1. Becoming a mother is a big adjustment! A poem I think every mother should have framed and hanging somewhere she will see it frequently is:
    I hope that my child, looking back on today
    Will remember a mother who had time to play;
    Because children grow up while you're not looking,
    There are years ahead for cleaning and cooking.
    So, quiet now cobwebs, dust go to sleep.
    I'm nursing my baby, and babies don't keep.

    I would also recommend the book The Mission of Motherhood by Sally Clarkson. It's been a really great reminder of what my priorities should be at this stage in my life.
    Hang in there! I'm sure you're doing an awesome job!

  2. Never doubt that you are a great mother. Paxton is extremely lucky to have been born to such a devoted mother. God has blessed both of you.

  3. Awww…I feel for you, Rachel. I wish I could take some of the burden off of you.
    I have had this feeling many times as well. What I have realized is that I have to have a plan for the day. That may not be very reasonable with a 6 month old. 🙂 Also, I have learned to challenge myself with 5 – 10 minute spurts to do as much as I can in those 5-10 minutes. Unload dishwasher in 5. Clean up bathroom counter in 3. Put away clothes 5 minutes at a time. Dust one room in 5. Even if it takes you three sessions to do it in a day. It will eventually get done. This has helped my sanity. I am praying for you!

    1. Meg,

      I've been using some of the short spurt tactics…it does help! Also, if there is a little task that can be completed in 2-3 minutes I am trying to just do it!! Thanks for the prayers!

  4. This post must be my favorite you have ever done. Thank you for being real! I'll never forget when my pastor counseled us once when we were trying to mae a choice about something…and he said this is not the season in your life for this thing. The Bible even talks about the different seasons of life. You are doing a great job with your family! God bless you!

    1. Thank you Kim. This post was just an honest look into my heart that evening I posted it! I typically post about cooking, crafts, saving money, etc. which often have a positive and "got it together" feel to them. I do those things and enjoy them but I'm far from having it together (and I haven't had time to sew in 7 months!)

      I am trying to remember each and every day that this is such a short season of my life. All too soon I'll be looking back on these days and wishing for the chaos that comes with having a baby.

  5. Of course it's all worthwhile! You have a beautiful family and all these things are part of it. Remember that there's a time for everything. A time to be neat and a time to be messy, a time to organise things and a time of disorganisation.
    Most of us mums have been through that. I'm a mum of six children and there were times when my bed was full of clothes, clean and dirty, the sink full of dirty dishes, toys everywhere crying kids all over. But the Lord gave strength and He still does to all of us.
    Our children are God's gift and it's all worthwhile. HOLD ON.

    1. Thank you for your encouraging words!! Yes, it is all worthwhile! Thank you for the reminder that there is a time for everything! At this time mobile baby means somewhat messy home and that is okay! (And thank heaven for weekends and husbands…I finally vacuumed!)

  6. It's good to know it is just a season though. By the time my daughter was old enough to really start entertaining herself and I was starting to catch up on housework, my husband and I decided to continue our family. So now we have an 18 month old and one month old. Talk about DUST and PILES!!! But you know what? My kids are fed, the house is sanitary if not in perfect condition, and we're all happy. So you start to see what really matters.

  7. Hey! I understand! I have two little guys (4.5 and 2.5). Someone once told me, it will always be there (meaning the dishes and such). But I have a new thing I do, I set a timer for 15min and I go and work on something. No worries, make a to-do list, get one thing done after he goes to bed (or takes a nap) and then check it off. You'll be caught up in no time! Also, if you spend a little extra time cleaning something while he plays by himself, he will not feel unloved. I have done that countless times with my boys, and they still feel loved.

    1. Love the tips! I've been incorporating short little spurts of cleaning here and there (and some with him on my hip…it's amazing what mamas can do while holding a baby!)

    1. Agree!! I can't begin to imagine how it must be with 2 little guys. When my hubby gets home, I want to spend time with him and when Paxton finally goes to bed I want to do anything but clean.

  8. We want more children but there are some days when I think I must be crazy for wanting a few more!! If I can't handle one baby and keeping a home neat, how can I handle more kiddos! I suppose you do adapt to your situation though and begin letting go of your perfections and focus on a happy family instead of a picture perfect home! Thank you for the reminder that having kids fed, house sanitary and being happy is what really matters!

    Congrats on the new little one!!

  9. So right there with you! It gets easier! My daughter is now 15 months and the other day, my husband and I needed to clean out the car. We bundled her up, (its already pretty cold here) took her outside in the front yard with a ball to play with. We cleaned the entire car while she played and ran around. It was mind blowing to me!

    I kept sane with asking my husband to entertain her for an 30-45 minutes when she was that age and I would just go crazy and clean like a maniac! I usually did that on Sunday afternoons. I also followed a weekly cleaning schedule and got good at finding ways to entertain her so I could do my job! I discovered she loved being inside the laundry basket while I folded clothes! She loves playing peek a boo with the clothes too! While I iron, I give her the flashlight and she is so way entertained!

    Sometimes I also put her in the crib with a favorite toy while I iron so she won't grab the cord and hurt herself!

    Now my secret weapon is Cat in the Hat! Its a little show and its on Netflix, she LOVES it! If I'm desperate for sanity and need to get cleaning done, I turn that on, and clean like crazy!

    Just some tips. It does get better, truly!

  10. You said exactly how I've been feeling for several months. I have five children ranging from 17, 15, 14, 10 and 1. I'm tired just from typing this! You would think that since I have older children they could help at home more but they have busy lives too. It is a challenge to be everything to everybody and a lot of nights I go to bed feeling like I should have done more whether cleaning, laundry, meals, etc. I am exhausted but I know this is just the season of life I am in. I do thank God continually everyday to take care of these precious children and my husband who is busy too. I try to take in every moment I have with my kids and enjoy. God Bless!

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